I am good at being single

I think there are times when the idea of being with someone (in a relationship) seems nice. Then I watch people who are in relationships. I see them tolerate all sorts of crap from each other. I see how sick of making compromises each of them are. I see them roll their eyes and make faces behind each others back.

I am good at being single. I utilize my time alone and rarely get lonely. I have a awesome set of friends who never let things get dull, and I always have something going on. I am heading off to Europe next month for a working tour of old English castles and pubs for 6-8 weeks.

I don't think many people consider the sacrifices that they have to make to be in a relationship. Girls just watch too many 'chick flicks' and guys get lost in the idea of regular sex. I think most people devalue the benefits of living the single life, fear it and even pity those of us who are living it.

I have been single for over 10 years, with a few moments of faltering judgment here and there. I know something very important: These years are rare and need to be exploited. I know I will find someone at some point.

So the real question is how do I spend the time I have alone?

While I am single do I grasp everything I can out of the experience, do I do everything that I can to enjoy the freedom I have?

I am good at being single because I don't get lonely. I think lonely people are unhappy because they are unaware of themselves; they need someone around to tell them how to feel good about themselves and what they have done with their lives. This is the person that becomes clingy and co-dependent in a relationship. I am good at being single because I know exactly what kind of girl it will take for me to be ok with making compromises for (long term, no faces behind her back). Remember everybody is willing to make short term compromises to have sex.

I am perfectly happy being alone till I trip over the right girl. When that moment comes, after she helps me up and apologizes for tripping me; not that it would be her fault because I probably didn't see her standing right in front of me. That will be the girl I will think 'a life with', is better than the life I am already living.

Thoughts by Paul
http://livingwithpaul.com