Orgasm Problems In Women and men

Both men and women can experience a variety of problems with orgasm (and ejaculation in the case of men).

Orgasmic disorders take several forms:

1) Orgasms are non-existent
2) Orgasms are delayed or take too long (a condition known as delayed or retarded ejaculation in men and female orgasmic disorder in women)
3) Orgasms are too rapid and accompanied by premature ejaculation in men

Because men and women receive very different messages from society about sex and orgasm, the problems they have with orgasm seem to be very different.

For men, the two common problems are rapid ejaculation and male orgasmic disorder. Ejaculation and orgasm are in fact two separate events in men, but they usually happen at the same time. Hence rapid ejaculation is often thought of as an orgasmic disorder for men. In fact, rapid ejaculation is the most common male sexual complaint. It causes disharmony in the relationship, distress to the man, and a low sexual self-esteem.

Delayed ejaculation is a condition where a man cannot reach orgasm or finds that it takes such a long time that enjoyment of sex is reduced or diminished to zero. This can be very problematic if a couple are trying to have a child.

Men may have difficulty reaching orgasm for a number of reasons. For example: he may be taking drugs that delay orgasm or stop orgasms altogether; he may be stressed; he may not be sexually aroused enough to reach orgasm despite having an erection.

A man is said to have male orgasmic disorder only when drugs and other heath problems have been eliminated, and when the condition happens often enough to cause a man and his partner emotional stress. Some men who have male orgasmic disorder may even fake orgasm with their sexual partner. Fortunately there are several self-help programs available for men with this condition, such as those described in the websites below.

Female orgasmic disorders are different. Sometimes a woman is sexually inhibited and inexperienced; she may not know her body well enough to understand how to enjoy orgasms. On the other hand, she may simply not be getting the right kind of sexual stimulation - or enough stimulation. In these cases, the answer is probably to visit a good educational website which will help her to undrestand her body and sexual responses better.

One definition of female orgasmic disorder is as follows: even though a woman is sexually aroused and sexually excited, she does not have an orgasm or it takes her a long time to reach orgasm, and she is distressed by this.

Anorgasmia is another word used for the condition of not having orgasms. Primary anorgasmia means a woman has never had an orgasm, and secondary anorgasmia means a woman has had orgasms before but for some reason she is not having them now.

Sometimes both men and women can only have an orgasm under certain conditions, for example only through masturbation or only with one particular partner. Again, this can be treated at home with the help of a self-help treatment program.

Treatment for female orgasmic disorder involves several lines of attack, but teaching women about their bodies and how to stimulate themselves to orgasm is a large part of the cure. And this education has to extend to male partners, so that women can get orgasmic pleasure during sex.

Most orgasmic disorder is psychological rather than physical in origin. It's this which means that treatment can be so successful and both men and women can be restored to the natural orgasmic potentail of their bodies.